Hi Kendra!
Good question. Like with any location with a real “persona” (to say the least) there will always be those kind of people wandering around. That said, there are plenty of people who actually LIVE in the Hamptons year round, and the ones I’ve met are lovely! I feel similarly about LA– which can be insufferable and really wonderful in equal measure.
I suggest visiting the Hamptons in the “off-season” aka NOW
xoxo
EAM