Comments on: The Values I’m Teaching My Son

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Thu, 29 Aug 2019 12:35:29 +0000

[…] me that the number one value system I wanted desperately to instill in my children revolved around kindness, self-love, and independence. I think the thing that would make me the most proud of my […]

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By: Catherine

Wed, 23 Jan 2019 02:54:23 +0000

I enjoyed both this and your post on raising a girl. I think every value is interchangeable for boy or girl. I especially value with my son changing the perception of masculinity. I am lucky in that my husband straddles this so perfectly that hopefully it is natural for my son. Hahah my husband is a pilot (a stereotypically masculine field) who loves baking cookies and cakes ? I treasure the idea of seeing what blend of “masculine/feminine” traits (though I really think what blend of human traits) my son gets. And for both daughers and sons, the quote from the live action Cinderella really stuck with me … to raise them to “have courage and be kind.”

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By: Paulette Daniels

Fri, 14 Sep 2018 17:19:50 +0000

I so enjoyed this article. It brings back so many memories of when my son was a child and all of the values that I tried to instill in him. I think that it is harder with boys but if we start early surely we can teach them a lot. My son and I who is now 30 years old was out to dinner one day and one of his co workers who is a older lady commented on how well mannered he is. I can tell you that it made me so proud and to think that just maybe I did a few things right. And you have a beautiful family!!!

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By: Lauren

Fri, 14 Sep 2018 16:13:01 +0000

Thank you for this! Totally something I worry about with the current climate going on especially. While my baby is a little too young to understand quite all of this, I plan to teach him these values early on for sure-right now just working on sitting up!

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By: Sally

Wed, 12 Sep 2018 04:03:30 +0000

I’m seriously crying over here, I cannot begin to tell you how much I needed this article.
Last week my husband and I found out that we were having a boy. And while I was elated that he was kicking and healthy, I IMMEDIATELY started worrying. Long story short, it began a week-long downward spiral of panic attacks and compulsive parenting book purchses. As a survivor of sexual assault and workplace harrasment, I have stressed over every point you made. It is calming to read that I am not alone in my worry and that it is possible to raise respectful men today.
Thank you. I really needed this today.

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By: Margo Tomsey

Wed, 12 Sep 2018 01:44:14 +0000

So. Smart. I’ve been thinking about these same values and how I’ll raise my future sons. I’m hanging this article up in the closet of the nursery to remind me along the journey. And I’ve been working on an art piece for the wall that says KINDNESS.
Same page, Mama. Keep up the good work.
You’re so inspiring.

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By: Mary

Tue, 11 Sep 2018 01:00:56 +0000

Dear Eva,
This post truly speaks to my heart! I think that for far too long masculinity has been synonymous to aggressiveness, absence (or concealment) of emotions and dominance.Fortunately the notion of “allowing” men to have other more “feminine” sensitive qualities as well gains ground and breaks old taboos.I absolutely agree with all the values you want to instill to your son and especially the one about finding joy every day is sooo important! I have a little boy 31 months old and from early on I tried to teach him to be kind, not to hit and push other kids, to share his toys, which mostly comes naturaly to him cause he is such a good soul and sweet heart.Of course, not all parents around us are concerned about teaching their kids such stuff and even if they do it’s not always easy to force good manners to a child and therefore hitting, pushing, mocking, yelling etc. happens very often between kids.Which brings me to my biggest concern as a mother right now : my boy is usually very upset when some kid acts aggressively towards him and bursts easily into tears.Sometimes he might hit back ungrily feeling that he was treated unfairly but I am afraid that by teaching him to be kind and not hit others I might confuse him and not help him assert himself when he needs to.While I dont want him to be a brat and hit other kids intentionally, I also want him to be able to cope with the aggressiveness of others and not become an easy target for bullying later.He is a sensitive boy and I know by first hand that sensitive people are also very strong, I dont want him to loose that.I just want him to be able to set boundaries and not allow others to take advantage of him or hurt him because of his good heart but without him becoming an insensitive asshole.I am trying to instill self confidence to him through my love and fortify his beautiful soul.This whole matter has caused a lot of disagreement with my husband who thinks that we should not tell him all the time to be polite and kind and that he should be allowed to express his natural aggressiveness and become assertive and tough man later.It’s difficult to balance, right?

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By: Katherine Santana

Mon, 10 Sep 2018 19:00:59 +0000

Hey Eva, I’ve been following your blog for a couple of months now and you truly are inspring. I watch your stories on Instagram and think your a great person and mother. Love your fashion as well. I am 33 years old and have two boys 12 and 10 and I am also raising my 11 year old cousin. Most of all the things that you wrote about in this post is what I try to instill in my boys. I definitely tell them to be mindful of others, to be kind to others because you never know what anyone is going through, that men and woman are equal and I try for them to definitely have manners: like to give the sit up on the subway for a pregnant lady or an elderly person, to hold the doors open. Both my boys are sensitive and I tell them their is nothing wrong with being in touch with your emotions. One important thing you touched on was to respect woman as well I also tell them from both perspectives. Treat girls how you would want your mom to be treated and vice versa and girls have to treat you the same. In my household I am not married but been with my boyfriend for 10 years and he is not the biological father but he’s an awesome Dad!! He gave my boys what I didn’t have growing up a two parent household. To which I grow up in a single mom house hold. Thanks for sharing on your values in gave me some things I need to work on and remind my boys of !

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By: Tracy L

Mon, 10 Sep 2018 18:26:09 +0000

This is such a great post. I do feel a real responsibility to raise thoughtfuI and curious boys. I have 3 boys and they are so different so I find myself constantly evaluating what they are doing and how I am responding. I am hardest on my oldest because like I tell him his brothers are always watching. I love how siblings are always learning from each other and I give my older kids credit for how much quicker the younger ones absorb things. I try to get my kids out in the community outside of school because I think they really learn so much just by experiencing different activities and social situations. I also feel it is so important to do these kind of things at a young age because so much of that stays with them. I also recognize they are very, very fortunate to have a father and two grandfathers who go out of their way to be involved in their lives and set good examples.

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By: Eva Martino

Mon, 10 Sep 2018 15:14:27 +0000

In reply to Raven.

I’m curious what about this post made you think that we weren’t doing that?

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