Comments on: The Decision To Go For Baby #3 https://reztt.com/the-decision-to-go-for-baby-3/#utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=the-decision-to-go-for-baby-3 A Lifestyle Blog from Eva Amurri Wed, 23 Jul 2025 17:07:45 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0.5 By: Caroline https://reztt.com/the-decision-to-go-for-baby-3/#comment-361901 Wed, 23 Jul 2025 17:07:45 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=17806#comment-361901 Jen. I’ve got to check in on this - what did you end up doing? I’m in this exact same boat right now!]]> In reply to Jen.

I’ve got to check in on this – what did you end up doing? I’m in this exact same boat right now!

]]> By: Liz https://reztt.com/the-decision-to-go-for-baby-3/#comment-228308 Sat, 07 Jan 2023 14:27:44 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=17806#comment-228308 Such a great post! Thank you for sharing.
I have been in the fence lately to open the dirt for having a third.
Here’s the thing, it’s my husband who has been consistent with asking about having more children.
We lead a busy life, like many. I am 37, we have two boys ages 9 & 6. We both work full time, both kids are in hockey (5 days a week)my husband is a first responder and works 24 hour shifts, This alone freaks me out. It would be different having a new born compared to when we had our other two with his new career.
I feel Iike it took me so long to get back to working a full time role and I just got promoted. I am however lucky to work from home.
Your story made me tear up, it runs similar to my situation. I feel like my hubby had an early mid life Crisis when we got pregnant with our first, it felt like he was never home. He took on this new interest for fitness and spent hours at the gym training to compete while already working a long day with over 2 hours just in travelling . I felt solo, it was hard. Even till now I feel resentful, he get to go out more often than me. It’s like I’m on stand by for Everyone and I am drained.
I’ve thought about talking to him about
How I feel, but it’s hard.
He is my best friend and an incredible father but I do feel like there’s no time for me, no hobbies, barely any time to see my best friend, we are revolving our time around sports/tournaments.
It’s all just really overwhelming.
But just like you say, 10 years from now when the kids don’t want to be around us as much, what will that feel like?
I’ve wanted to have this chat with my boys also to see how
They would feel about a brother or sister.
I know my eldest is incredible with our friends little girl (2.5), and even our little niece (6), my eldest is so sweet to them.
My husband wanted a girl but there is no way to pick haha.
I felt so certain I didn’t want more. But when I see our friends who are close to our age and pregnant and their other children compared to ours, our boys are the oldest. It makes me sad. In between our boys I had a miscarriage, it was the worst time for me. Shortly after we got pregnant with
Our youngest.

There’s a lot to think about. I think my first step is to open up to my husband and see where it goes from there.

Being able to write this out and share my thoughts is appreciated.

Thank you again for your story. I know I am coming across this a few years later, but I hope your family of 5 is happy & healthy

Take care

]]> By: Tiffany https://reztt.com/the-decision-to-go-for-baby-3/#comment-199017 Mon, 09 May 2022 03:27:33 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=17806#comment-199017 Valerie. Wow, your experience really resonated with me! I always feel out of the loop because we have two older boys (11 and 8) and are expecting a 3rd. Like you and your husband, we both happened to be thinking about having a 3rd and decided we would try during the month of February and if nothing happened in February, he would get his tied. And then BAM. We are expecting our 3rd in November. I feel more comfortable hearing stories about women with large age gaps with their children as the 2 and 3 year age gaps seem much more common. For my husband and I, life was just so hectic after we had our 2nd (loss of my brother, my husband's father, intense work hours, open heart surgery for my mom and...oh...a pandemic). 8 years later, we are preparing for another little human. My husband is excited...I'm getting there. 😊 Either way, children are blessings and I'm trusting everything will work together for our good!]]> In reply to Valerie.

Wow, your experience really resonated with me! I always feel out of the loop because we have two older boys (11 and 8) and are expecting a 3rd. Like you and your husband, we both happened to be thinking about having a 3rd and decided we would try during the month of February and if nothing happened in February, he would get his tied. And then BAM. We are expecting our 3rd in November. I feel more comfortable hearing stories about women with large age gaps with their children as the 2 and 3 year age gaps seem much more common. For my husband and I, life was just so hectic after we had our 2nd (loss of my brother, my husband’s father, intense work hours, open heart surgery for my mom and…oh…a pandemic). 8 years later, we are preparing for another little human. My husband is excited…I’m getting there. 😊 Either way, children are blessings and I’m trusting everything will work together for our good!

]]> By: Phoebe https://reztt.com/the-decision-to-go-for-baby-3/#comment-192492 Sat, 29 Jan 2022 10:08:28 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=17806#comment-192492 jacqui. Could you use a sperm donor and have a baby, a sibling for your son, that way? I know a few women who have done it, one who was 43 when she delivered... I'm sure you've already considered it but if the ache is there and there is room in your heart and life for a baby I say go for it!]]> In reply to jacqui.

Could you use a sperm donor and have a baby, a sibling for your son, that way? I know a few women who have done it, one who was 43 when she delivered… I’m sure you’ve already considered it but if the ache is there and there is room in your heart and life for a baby I say go for it!

]]> By: Jess B https://reztt.com/the-decision-to-go-for-baby-3/#comment-190305 Sat, 18 Dec 2021 20:03:45 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=17806#comment-190305 This is 100% how I feel. I felt as if I was writing this myself. Thank you for your perspective. We are in the midst of the decision on whether or not we should expand our family. My mama heart (and mom brain lol) is so nervous but it is constantly on my mind and I feel that’s the good Lord telling me to just go ahead with it.

]]> By: J https://reztt.com/the-decision-to-go-for-baby-3/#comment-167013 Mon, 11 Jan 2021 03:54:25 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=17806#comment-167013 Sara. I feel that exact same. All legitimate concerns! My boys are 7 and 5. My biggest concern is failing to provide the attention they’re use to and missing out on new experiences and 1st. So stressful.]]> In reply to Sara.

I feel that exact same. All legitimate concerns! My boys are 7 and 5. My biggest concern is failing to provide the attention they’re use to and missing out on new experiences and 1st. So stressful.

]]> By: Maria M. https://reztt.com/the-decision-to-go-for-baby-3/#comment-166214 Wed, 23 Dec 2020 12:43:26 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=17806#comment-166214 This is exactly the uplifting article I was waiting for. Part of the sign that I needed, just like you did. You’re the first article I opened up and the entire story resonated with me. My husband is the same way; he was brought up knowing that the father is the breadwinner and the mother the homemaker. On our first child, he contributed very little at home. We agreed to have a second for the sake of having a sibling to grow up with for our first. I have 3 siblings and my husband has 2. My parents came from big families and I also thought of having at least 4 kids before. But then with his minimal help with the two kids and extensive hours at work, I was overwhelmed, had PPD and felt I needed anger management. My husband seeked to help the family financially over anything. His overtime was voluntary and sometimes excessive. He realized in the last few months how much he has missed with our kids and realized how much fathering he actually lacked, so he wanted to do better. And when I realized I missed so many moments where I could’ve been good with my kids instead of how I was, I also wanted a do-over.

Beautiful story. I was so touched. Just what I needed. I hope to be a family of 5 someday too, before my time clock runs out. If it’s meant to be. It’ll be, right? We won’t be trying too hard either. Thank you!

]]> By: Laura https://reztt.com/the-decision-to-go-for-baby-3/#comment-156821 Mon, 06 Jul 2020 05:26:41 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=17806#comment-156821 My husband and I have two boys. The oldest will be 6 in October and the youngest will be 2 in November. I have always said I only ever wanted 2 children. I had all intentions to have my tubes tied after our second son but I changed my mind because I just had that feeling inside that our family wasn’t complete yet. My husband is not on board with a third much at all but I’m hoping he will change his mind and we will be able to try for one more soon.

]]> By: Allison Roozen https://reztt.com/the-decision-to-go-for-baby-3/#comment-155138 Mon, 27 Jan 2020 05:11:36 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=17806#comment-155138 Having a third has been up in the air for me from the moment my second was born. I’m now in the two week wait of the one shot we are giving to the idea and I’m such an emotional mess! Loved reading your story, thanks for sharing.

]]> By: Jesse https://reztt.com/the-decision-to-go-for-baby-3/#comment-154650 Thu, 23 Jan 2020 23:07:19 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=17806#comment-154650 How will all this work now that you two are divorced?

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