Comments on: New Peers Who Dis? https://reztt.com/new-peers-who-dis/#utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=new-peers-who-dis A Lifestyle Blog from Eva Amurri Fri, 14 Aug 2026 17:10:14 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0.5 By: How Young Is Too Young To Commit? - REZTT https://reztt.com/new-peers-who-dis/#comment-91609 Mon, 08 Oct 2018 11:00:57 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=10134#comment-91609 […] “Extracurricular Activities”.  It sounds insane to call them that when you’re talking about a preschooler, but for lack of a better term, there it is.  Marlowe is super social, super active, and gets so […]

]]> By: Kelsey https://reztt.com/new-peers-who-dis/#comment-51206 Sat, 27 Jan 2018 15:49:44 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=10134#comment-51206 Kelsey. I also am going to try your advice and give him whatever he is feeling he needs at that moment then try to move on. Support and push! Support and push! Hence, the balancing act.]]> In reply to Kelsey.

I also am going to try your advice and give him whatever he is feeling he needs at that moment then try to move on. Support and push! Support and push! Hence, the balancing act.

]]> By: Kelsey https://reztt.com/new-peers-who-dis/#comment-51204 Sat, 27 Jan 2018 15:46:54 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=10134#comment-51204 Eva Martino. Thank you for your detailed and thoughtful response! I think my frustration stemmed from not knowing how long it would go on. And maybe, on a deeper and more narcissistic note, I have been frustrated because I know he is more advanced and want him to be his smartest self. I also can appreciate what you said about encouraging Marlowe for feminist reasons. Hurrah! Girls should be encouraged to speak for themselves and not hide behind their beauty, sexuality, or being ditzy. I also think that children rise to the expectations that are set for them. So, if you speak to your child using big words and with respect and maturity they will learn that behavior. Perhaps, also the baby talk has been a response to the upcoming arrival of baby #2. Hmm... (insert thinking emoji) Duh. Thank you again for your advice. Parenting is the ultimate balancing act isn't it?! Take care!]]> In reply to Eva Martino.

Thank you for your detailed and thoughtful response!
I think my frustration stemmed from not knowing how long it would go on. And maybe, on a deeper and more narcissistic note, I have been frustrated because I know he is more advanced and want him to be his smartest self.
I also can appreciate what you said about encouraging Marlowe for feminist reasons. Hurrah! Girls should be encouraged to speak for themselves and not hide behind their beauty, sexuality, or being ditzy. I also think that children rise to the expectations that are set for them. So, if you speak to your child using big words and with respect and maturity they will learn that behavior.
Perhaps, also the baby talk has been a response to the upcoming arrival of baby #2. Hmm… (insert thinking emoji) Duh.
Thank you again for your advice. Parenting is the ultimate balancing act isn’t it?!
Take care!

]]> By: Eva Martino https://reztt.com/new-peers-who-dis/#comment-50917 Wed, 24 Jan 2018 16:39:49 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=10134#comment-50917 Taylor. Ha! You have no idea how many emails I get from ballet teachers about both my kids and starting ballet! Apparently their arches are noticeable even in Instastories! LOL! Who knew?! Definitely going to start her in the spring :)]]> In reply to Taylor.

Ha! You have no idea how many emails I get from ballet teachers about both my kids and starting ballet! Apparently their arches are noticeable even in Instastories! LOL! Who knew?!

Definitely going to start her in the spring 🙂

]]> By: Eva Martino https://reztt.com/new-peers-who-dis/#comment-50916 Wed, 24 Jan 2018 16:37:22 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=10134#comment-50916 Kelsey. Soooo, we just went through this with Marlowe. It also really frustrated me, so I know how you feel. (I also have a residual frustration from middle school of feeling really triggered when girls pretend to be less advanced/smart/capable than they are to get attention...so my daughter regressing with her language particularly bothers me) I realized that me getting frustrated wasn't doing anything, in fact it was probably making it worse. So I started calling it out and saying. "Oh, I hear you switching to a baby voice right now. Why are you talking in your baby voice? Do you feel like you need some baby love right now?" Inevitably she'd say (in a baby voice) "Yes, Mama, I want to be a little baby right now" And I'd say "ok let me hold you like a baby, or let me feed you with this spoon like a baby. " After about a minute I would say, ok, that was fun– now you're a big girl again! What should we do that's fun for Big Girls to do? Or I'd bring up a topic of conversation that I knew she liked. And she would revert back to her normal voice. I would advise spending some time thinking about why the baby voice bothers you so much. I found that when I did this myself and identified why it frustrated me, it helped me diffuse the emotions behind the interaction in the moment. I was then able to attack the issue with a lot more patience and understanding. It was like understanding it for myself helped me help her with it, if that makes sense. Isn't it interesting how so many parenting "road blocks" we encounter are actually about ourselves and not about them? (at least for me!) xoxo]]> In reply to Kelsey.

Soooo, we just went through this with Marlowe. It also really frustrated me, so I know how you feel.

(I also have a residual frustration from middle school of feeling really triggered when girls pretend to be less advanced/smart/capable than they are to get attention…so my daughter regressing with her language particularly bothers me)
I realized that me getting frustrated wasn’t doing anything, in fact it was probably making it worse. So I started calling it out and saying. “Oh, I hear you switching to a baby voice right now. Why are you talking in your baby voice? Do you feel like you need some baby love right now?” Inevitably she’d say (in a baby voice) “Yes, Mama, I want to be a little baby right now” And I’d say “ok let me hold you like a baby, or let me feed you with this spoon like a baby. ”
After about a minute I would say, ok, that was fun– now you’re a big girl again! What should we do that’s fun for Big Girls to do? Or I’d bring up a topic of conversation that I knew she liked. And she would revert back to her normal voice.

I would advise spending some time thinking about why the baby voice bothers you so much. I found that when I did this myself and identified why it frustrated me, it helped me diffuse the emotions behind the interaction in the moment. I was then able to attack the issue with a lot more patience and understanding. It was like understanding it for myself helped me help her with it, if that makes sense.

Isn’t it interesting how so many parenting “road blocks” we encounter are actually about ourselves and not about them? (at least for me!)

xoxo

]]> By: Eva Martino https://reztt.com/new-peers-who-dis/#comment-50913 Wed, 24 Jan 2018 16:30:46 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=10134#comment-50913 Julia Perrotta. LOL, I know right?! Who knew!]]> In reply to Julia Perrotta.

LOL, I know right?! Who knew!

]]> By: Eva Martino https://reztt.com/new-peers-who-dis/#comment-50912 Wed, 24 Jan 2018 16:30:25 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=10134#comment-50912 Taylore. Awesome!]]> In reply to Taylore.

Awesome!

]]> By: Eva Martino https://reztt.com/new-peers-who-dis/#comment-50911 Wed, 24 Jan 2018 16:30:01 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=10134#comment-50911 Suzanne. When our kids encounter excluding type behaviors it can be so heartbreaking! Marlowe had an experience once when we were at a party and there were three older girls (around 6-7) and they weren't letting her join them in their game because she was "too little". I found myself getting disproportionately frustrated and realized that it was dragging out a lot of my own feelings and insecurities from my own childhood. I know it will be hard for me to watch Marlowe go through the ups and downs of middle school, that's for sure!]]> In reply to Suzanne.

When our kids encounter excluding type behaviors it can be so heartbreaking! Marlowe had an experience once when we were at a party and there were three older girls (around 6-7) and they weren’t letting her join them in their game because she was “too little”. I found myself getting disproportionately frustrated and realized that it was dragging out a lot of my own feelings and insecurities from my own childhood.

I know it will be hard for me to watch Marlowe go through the ups and downs of middle school, that’s for sure!

]]> By: Eva Martino https://reztt.com/new-peers-who-dis/#comment-50910 Wed, 24 Jan 2018 16:27:33 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=10134#comment-50910 Meaghan. Oh, yes, I have heard that around 4 and 5 this can start in school. I'm not looking forward to it! :(]]> In reply to Meaghan.

Oh, yes, I have heard that around 4 and 5 this can start in school. I’m not looking forward to it! 🙁

]]> By: Eva Martino https://reztt.com/new-peers-who-dis/#comment-50909 Wed, 24 Jan 2018 16:26:55 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=10134#comment-50909 Andrea. Thanks for these book resources!]]> In reply to Andrea.

Thanks for these book resources!

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