Comments on: Moving Mayhem

By: Margo McNair

Fri, 03 May 2019 16:35:25 +0000

Wow….what an emotional post! I cried, laughed…you used my favorite mom fa word of “shitshow”- and once again felt truly blessed to be one of your subscribers. I say this often, but your honesty and candidness is unsurpassed, Eva. Much love.
Margo

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By: Dara Lee

Fri, 03 May 2019 12:33:32 +0000

We moved across the country almost 4 years ago. At the time my kids were 11, 8 and 6. For the first 5 months of our move we lived in a 2 bedroom apartment. With a dog and a cat. In all honesty that part of our move was the easiest. It was summer time so we didn’t have to deal with starting new schools yet. After we bought out house and my girls had to start school was when it really got hard! Even though we were so excited to be in our new house the stress and anxiety of being the new kid in a new school starting (for her) in the middle of the year was so so hard on my 8 year old. She literally sobbed everyday going to the bus stop. I would ask her if she wanted me to drive her to school and that just made it worse for her. She gets overwhelmed in new situations and needs extra time to adjust and for her taking the bus was easier than getting dropped off. So we would walk to the bus crying and she would get on and make it to school and once she got home she was fine and always had a good day but the next morning we would repeat! I think this happened for a good solid month! It was torture! Once she got more comfortable she settled in and has been doing great! Even with this years move to middle school! Kids are so resilient if we give them the space and time to move through what they need to to adjust and sometimes that’s crying all the way to the bus stop;)

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By: Natasha

Wed, 01 May 2019 23:07:59 +0000

It’s been hard for our family too. We moved three years ago for a new job for my husband. He was working second shift but his new job was 3rd. He was working 5 days a week from 9pm until whenever they got done shipping. Then we had our 3rd boy. Then he got a new job 6 months later that was supposed to be 1st shift. That lasted 3 weeks. It wasn’t so bad at first bc he was on a 2, 2, 3 schedule had a 3 day weekend every other weekend to have family time. Then his boss thought it would be good to go to 5 days week. Well that only lasted a week and a year later he has been working 3rd shift 5-7 days a week. It’s rough not having a good schedule and not having family time. My oldest two are in kindergarten and 2nd grade and we can see how it has changed their behavior at home and school. Plus, keeping them quiet when home from at 230pm until 730pm when he gets up is no fun. I am dreading summertime in 5 weeks.

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By: Mandy

Wed, 01 May 2019 22:00:06 +0000

This post came at the perfect moment! My kids (2&4) are currently napping – one on the floor of our hotel room (I know, but it’s the only place she would crash!!) and the other is in the big bed. We moved out yesterday and we’re spending just 4 nights here until we get into the new home. All day I’ve been wondering why my 4 yo is driving me crazy with her terrible tantrums and why she constantly rages at me. Now I know there is a light at the end of this tunnel and I hope I can be more understanding of their behavior. I can’t wait to get back into a normal pace of life!!!

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By: Calley

Wed, 01 May 2019 04:52:21 +0000

Sometimes life just has to run its course and emotions follow. That is so brilliant and true. I can relate to this post in so many ways. Not with a move but a life change when my husband got laid off. It was such a hard time for not just us but the kids. Thanks for sharing.

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By: Jenny Walton

Wed, 01 May 2019 02:38:19 +0000

Preach Mama!! You got this!

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By: Abby

Wed, 01 May 2019 02:31:07 +0000

My heart breaks reading your honesty in this situation. If you have any advise or tips PLEASE post them as I will need it in the future.
So happy that the kids are getting back to themselves, which can only make you more calm and happy as their mum xxx

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By: L

Wed, 01 May 2019 01:46:16 +0000

Yes! We are in the midst of renovating with our 4 year old and I’m pregnant with our second. Ever since the renovation started (which intermittently requires us to stay with family for a week at a time), my 4 year old daughter has been a wreck, exactly like you describe, right down to germ paranoia! I’ve felt like a terrible mom and have been getting so anxious about how she’ll handle the next big transition to having a sibling. I appreciate your post so much – so good to hear we are not alone in our struggle. “Mothering not matching the outcome” is the best expression I’ve heard in a long time. Thank you for this! Glad things are settling down for the Martinos!

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By: Dana

Wed, 01 May 2019 01:33:46 +0000

Eva,
I love this post. So beautifully written, honest and reflective.

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