Comments on: His Loss: My Husband’s Take On Our Miscarriage

By: Sheila

Fri, 08 Jun 2018 00:30:54 +0000

Kyle, I’m sorry for your n Eva’s loss. How brave you both are. We lost our 1st baby around same time. It was devastating n I, like Eva, think of our babies everyday. My husband processed so much differently than I. I blamed myself, rehashing. My husband, had suffered loss so young, his mom. His feelings were, everything I love, I lose. For me, I tried to be strong at the hardest moment of my life to try to help him not feel this way as my heart broke for him. Without getting into all my heart aches, I remained strong for him n although he knew my sadness, I put on a brave face and cried alot alone and some with him as well. We had a daughter n 20 mos later, a son like you n Eva. We lost our 2nd baby about 6 yrs after our son. That hit me hard as I knew at exact moment I was pregnant. We never shared that loss with anyone but ourselves. Although I know my husband was sad, life was so busy with our 2 children. We both worked and I was heart broken. I always blamed myself, as I think is normal. I always wanted 4 children but although that happened in a different way, I pray I will hold my babies in my arms one day. To know they were loved and wanted. I’m so sorry for you both n I know in my heart you will both be with your baby one day. Thank you both for sharing such a personal experience with us. It is so brave. God Bless You, Eva, Marlowe n Major, Bubba! ???

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By: Colleen Ohl

Thu, 30 Mar 2017 16:46:52 +0000

This is so beautifully written – thank you for sharing your feelings so eloquently.

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By: Callie

Thu, 10 Nov 2016 20:05:15 +0000

This is absolutely amazing. How brave of your husband to share his feelings this way. Thank you both for inspiring a change, a shift in thinking, starting a conversation, and creating a community of healing for all who have experienced this pain. Thank you. Thank you.

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By: Wendy

Mon, 14 Mar 2016 03:42:47 +0000

Hello and thank you for this story. My husband and I just suffered a miscarriage last Sat. Our baby was almost 16 weeks old and I delivered him as I would have had he made it to term. He was my husbands first but my 4th. It still devastated me to this day and it tore him up too. Our son was alive for two hours after he was born. I have never in my life experienced anything like this and he and I are coping the best we can. He has been my rock through it all, even though I know he’s hurt and devastated too. I’m just hoping our marriage and lives can recover from this loss as yours has. Again thank you for sharing your side, it helps me understand my husband and what he’s possibly going through too.

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By: Am

Fri, 04 Mar 2016 15:38:44 +0000

In reply to Gianna.

This. I really loved this blog. I shared it on FB. 😉 I think you have a new follower too…

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By: Beckie

Wed, 02 Mar 2016 03:03:32 +0000

I have lost two babies. I think of them often. I release balloons with prayers written on them every due date. I expanded the miscarriage and loss section of the hospital library because they had nothing on the subject. I even tried to start a support group in our area, but people did not want to talk about their experiences. I still mourn, though I know I will see them in Heaven one day. My husband mourned differently. He made sure to be there for me and to not be there for me, as needed. He took care of our daughter. But he told me that he feels as a man it will hit him worse when milestones pass….16 years, Ollie and Quinn would have gotten their license…18, they would vote and start college, etc. Point being, we grieve differently. I wish he grieved with me as I do, but God made us this way. Perhaps it is so when one shatters, the other can pick up the pieces. If we both broke, who would pick up the pieces and who would care for our daughter, Hannah? Three months after my second miscarriage, I became pregnant with my son, Owen. I cannot imagine life without him. Though I am sad that I won’t meet Quinn until I get to Heaven, Owen would not have been born if God had not called Quinn home. I dunno, I’m just trying to think positively and I trust in His plan…no matter how painful the execution of His plan may be. Anyway, hope my experience helps. God bless you and your family…on earth and in Heaven.

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By: Shari

Tue, 01 Mar 2016 20:10:42 +0000

How wonderful to hear a fathers perspective on this terrible event. I endured 5 miscarriages and was blessed with 2 healthy children. Each took its toll on my marriage. My then husband refused to discuss his feeling about the losses but I know he had to feel just as bad about it as I did. I came to realize that each loss was unavoidable and had they not happened I would not have the 2 beautiful children I have now. Knowing that I would not change anything.

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By: Tabby

Tue, 01 Mar 2016 19:56:05 +0000

Thank you for sharing your story. It brought back my allot of memories my husband and I went through when we lost our son at 35 weeks in Aug/2013. Holding our son then was very emotional… my husband is not a big “share his thoughts” person, so this gave me a little piece of mind. We now have our miracle baby boy 🙂 born 10/2014 as you can see we didn’t waste time.

Thanks again Kyle for sharing your story!

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By: susan

Tue, 01 Mar 2016 15:06:03 +0000

It’s really nice to hear a father’s perspective on this topic and it’s so well written. Thank you so much for sharing.

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