Comments on: Happily Eva Answers: Putting The “Me” Back In Mommy

By: Melissa

Sun, 09 Oct 2016 19:48:11 +0000

The issues that are raised in this post hit a nerve with anyone that has ever struggled with their sense of identity or has coped with crippling feelings of self-doubt.

Finding that elusive ‘me-time’ could be exactly what’s needed to rebuild confidence and foster a more positive outlook and mood.

When I’m feeling low, I try and get moving – whether that’s going for a walk to clear my head or yoga (I highly recommend YouTube yogi Adriene who has a legion of loyal followers) – and find that really helps.

I can relate to the friends scenario though. I’m in my early 30s and many of my friends are happily coupled up and starting families. As a result, I see them a lot less often (which is to be expected). However, with some of them, I am only contacted when they need a shoulder to cry on or if they want a favour. It’s this more than anything else that I struggle with. That isn’t to say that I don’t support friends in need, it would just be nice to still be able to share the good times once in a while.

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By: Donna

Fri, 16 Sep 2016 20:02:41 +0000

In reply to Eva Martino.

Thanks for your comment. It helped me, however, I’m on other spectrum….”empty nest syndrome” I feel as lost without my children as u ladies feel with the overwhelming presence of children. Enjoy every second, the years go so quickly

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By: Eva Martino

Fri, 16 Sep 2016 14:44:59 +0000

In reply to Katie.

Thanks Katie!!! Wishing you all the best!

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By: Eva Martino

Fri, 16 Sep 2016 14:44:34 +0000

In reply to K.

thanks! I’m glad!

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By: Eva Martino

Fri, 16 Sep 2016 14:44:18 +0000

In reply to Nicole.

Hi Nicole!
Thank you. It is SUCH A hard balance to strike, and I think we are all ALWAYS readjusting and shifting within the structure of that life/parenthood balance. It’s important to remember that this challenge is one of the greatest gifts that parenthood brings us: the opportunity for personal growth. It helps me to think of it that way– that my “bad days” are educational stepping stones on the way to the best version of myself!

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By: Eva Martino

Fri, 16 Sep 2016 14:37:12 +0000

In reply to Mary.

Hi Mary!
This is all AMAZING advice. I love how proactive you’ve been to feel more like yourself in this personal rediscovery process. It IS a process, and I think we come back to ourselves little by little. I may need to start Makeover Mondays too! Such a cute idea!

xoxo
EAM

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By: Nicole

Fri, 16 Sep 2016 10:05:42 +0000

Thank you Eva for such a thoughtful response to that Mom. As a first time Mom myself, your advice really touched my heart as I think many of us struggle to find the balance between being a Mom, a wife/partner, a friend, a daughter etc all while trying not to lose who we are as individuals. Being judged as a Mom for everything we do seems so common now a days that it is easy to try and put on an act to try and make ourselves be accepted by others. You gave wonderful advice that we should all think about so that as Moms we enjoy our life and teach our children (especially our daughters) that being your true authentic self is important to your own happiness! Thank you!

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By: Mary

Fri, 16 Sep 2016 04:34:00 +0000

I felt lost and lonely for the first six months with my son. I quit my career to stay with him and suddenly didn’t know who I was or what to do with myself. I realized that I wasn’t 100% the same anymore. Being a mom changed me. I started to feel braver, sexier, and confident but it was a slow process that I am still working on. I placed goals for myself. One of them was Makeover Mondays. Every Monday I paint my nails, do a facial, use my fun body scrub. Just basically spend some serious me time. I may have to do dishes and laundry while I wear a mud mask but I feel more put together for the rest of the week. Walk Wednesdays, my son and I go walking somewhere beautiful and enjoy some none chore relaxation. I also include a funew treat like a fancy sorbet or coffee. I am also trying to spend more time with people who want to see me, even if it is just quick. Work on you and everyone else will see the glow from within.

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By: K

Fri, 16 Sep 2016 03:10:45 +0000

Loved the post! Inspired me a lot! Thanks Eva!

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By: Katie

Thu, 15 Sep 2016 22:40:23 +0000

This post really hit home with me, and your response was perfect. Thank you for exactly what I needed!

Xoxo,
Katie (stressed out, stay-at-home mama)

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