Comments on: HAPPILY EVA ANSWERS: Lonely & Searching in My Twenties https://reztt.com/happily-eva-answers-lonely-searching-in-my-twenties/#utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=happily-eva-answers-lonely-searching-in-my-twenties A Lifestyle Blog from Eva Amurri Thu, 06 Jan 2022 17:16:37 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0.5 By: best ip wifi camera https://reztt.com/happily-eva-answers-lonely-searching-in-my-twenties/#comment-22239 Fri, 16 Sep 2016 15:12:55 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=5215#comment-22239 Wire connections loitering your home will make it simple with regard
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]]> By: Lauren https://reztt.com/happily-eva-answers-lonely-searching-in-my-twenties/#comment-21541 Wed, 31 Aug 2016 20:02:54 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=5215#comment-21541 Tish. Could you send a link to that page? There are a bunch of Fempire Facebook groups and I'm not seeing the one you're talking about. Thanks!]]> In reply to Tish.

Could you send a link to that page? There are a bunch of Fempire Facebook groups and I’m not seeing the one you’re talking about.

Thanks!

]]> By: Ciera https://reztt.com/happily-eva-answers-lonely-searching-in-my-twenties/#comment-21502 Tue, 30 Aug 2016 02:32:26 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=5215#comment-21502 This is literally my life right now…. I am twenty three on the dot and this is (literally) what I am feeling put into eloquent, coherent words.

]]> By: Sue https://reztt.com/happily-eva-answers-lonely-searching-in-my-twenties/#comment-21413 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 12:19:14 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=5215#comment-21413 Forty Winks. Forty Winks....you are spot on! I sadly know how being chronically ill with an invisible disease and sometimes mobility challenged is a curse and a blessing. I wish you good health, love, laughter and many true friendships to bring you through the difficult days. Sue]]> In reply to Forty Winks.

Forty Winks….you are spot on! I sadly know how being chronically ill with an invisible disease and sometimes mobility challenged is a curse and a blessing. I wish you good health, love, laughter and many true friendships to bring you through the difficult days.
Sue

]]> By: Gabrielle https://reztt.com/happily-eva-answers-lonely-searching-in-my-twenties/#comment-21406 Fri, 26 Aug 2016 03:54:33 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=5215#comment-21406 Dear Eva,
I’m a huge fan of yours (and Kyle and Lowie’s, too!) and this week’s Answers really spoke to me and made me feel better. I’m also 23, recently single, and my friends and I are all having a hard time adjusting to “adult” life. I look at beautiful families like yours, or relationships like my parents, and I wonder when things will come together for me. I know it takes patience and WORK, but that doesn’t make it any easier to feel how I feel now. I also know I’m not alone in feeling this way, but that doesn’t make it hurt less either. One minute, I think I’m figuring life out, the next I wish I was a little kid again so I could hide under the covers.
Anyway, at the end of this rambling comment I just want to thank you. Your blog and social media always brighten my day. And it is comforting to me to read that you also felt lost in your 20s. I hope you’re feeling well with your pregnancy, and my best wishes to your awesome family.

Gabrielle

]]> By: Forty Winks https://reztt.com/happily-eva-answers-lonely-searching-in-my-twenties/#comment-21399 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 22:58:09 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=5215#comment-21399 parallelly to getting a more fulfilling job with better colleagues (important!!) ... which might not that easy to find these days ... GO FOR FRIENDS, FRIENDS, FRIENDS. As soon as you've graduated and started the so called 'adult-life' you may find that friendship doesn't come that easy anymore. Those student days weren't that bad, right? At least in my bio those days felt richer, fuller, more socializing than during working years later on. Depending on where and what you work, as well. I had best colleagues in care-giving with good working conditions, where most ppl really stood behind what they were doing and did it with love. It was a home for disabled ppl. Worst colleagues resp. working place atmosphere was in real etsate, where one department was constantly fighting with another department, as well as in an IT-job, where it seemed most important to nag about other teams or to jump on the latest hot shit trend like buying IT shares (which would go to hell just a couple of years later.) The IT bubble, that I just mentioned, is a good example. Isn't it symptomatic for our time? One promise here, that later turns out as a bubble -- the next promise there with no better ending. I'm primarily talking jobs, economics here. In my view there are so many uncertainties these days and only few employees will remain in one and the same company or even the same employment sector longer than ten years. Think back one or two generations --> totally different. In present times we probably have to figure out how to adapt best to change. How to adapt to ever changing work places, job descriptions, technologies, colleagues ... and maybe even family (unstable relationships, divorce of parents,...) and friends in new cities we might move to for the next (temporary) job. You'd love to have a constant good friend -- some permanent instance of love and continuity? I totally agree - this sounds like a good wish and should be tried to find or kept. Most people keep one or a couple of early childhood/school friends. Great. If, due to moving from place A to B to C to D you finally lost them all, ok, don't worry. Random friends, even 'friends' for just one joyful, good evening are just as important. Now an advise from a partly handicapped 40+ ... As long as your body is capable of moving: move! You can still dance? Super! Go out, dance! When you come to the point that your body tells you: half a song is already enough dance to exhaust you, things get a lot more troublesome on top of being single/alone and in a not so nice job (if at all you manage to maintain a job while being chronically ill.) One more fact that I'd like to tell from my past: I had the best time and found the best team of friends in a group, where we were fighting for a common cause. In my case it was an environmentalist group. It could be any action group, a sports/outdoor group, volunteering ... many possibilites. The common ground, the common goal is what I found very helpful to find my kind of folks. As long as you are healthy, you have the best chances to find joy again. When you can't do this and that, because your body strikes and if your radius shrinks, likeliness to find and stay in contact with interesting people decreases. Many end up in self-help groups. And then it's all about the disease. Yawn. Now I totally understand a former friend suffering from multiple sclerosis who would only want to date people without any form of handicap. She quasi had an allergy to people in wheelchairs. It did her good :) I admire her for having the strength to still go out and have plenty of wine and partying despite her chronic illness. Maybe she'll eventually die of liver failure and not of multiple sclerosis... Let me tell you that this deeply outgoing kind of personality is extremely rare among chronically ill persons. How many friends in wheelchairs and with multiple sclerosis e.g. do you have? I guess not so many. Most severely chronically ill end up pretty much by themselves plus a hard core of (school) friends and family who'll keep up with whatever may come. So, let me remind you to use your body, go out, dance, drink (without ruining your health), try to have fun even with strangers and enjoy to be able to partake. The older you get, the more difficult it may become. Stay healthy and enjoy.]]> Thinking about one’s future plans, brainstorming about what could be and what should be or might be, is all important and sure worth doing.
Let just a 40+ woman (me) tell her view on what might be wisest to prioritize:
as long as you feel lonely, alone, not content with your work nor your co-workers –> parallelly to getting a more fulfilling job with better colleagues (important!!) … which might not that easy to find these days … GO FOR FRIENDS, FRIENDS, FRIENDS.

As soon as you’ve graduated and started the so called ‘adult-life’ you may find that friendship doesn’t come that easy anymore. Those student days weren’t that bad, right?
At least in my bio those days felt richer, fuller, more socializing than during working years later on. Depending on where and what you work, as well.
I had best colleagues in care-giving with good working conditions, where most ppl really stood behind what they were doing and did it with love. It was a home for disabled ppl.
Worst colleagues resp. working place atmosphere was in real etsate, where one department was constantly fighting with another department, as well as in an IT-job, where it seemed most important to nag about other teams or to jump on the latest hot shit trend like buying IT shares (which would go to hell just a couple of years later.)

The IT bubble, that I just mentioned, is a good example. Isn’t it symptomatic for our time? One promise here, that later turns out as a bubble — the next promise there with no better ending.
I’m primarily talking jobs, economics here. In my view there are so many uncertainties these days and only few employees will remain in one and the same company or even the same employment sector longer than ten years. Think back one or two generations –> totally different.

In present times we probably have to figure out how to adapt best to change. How to adapt to ever changing work places, job descriptions, technologies, colleagues … and maybe even family (unstable relationships, divorce of parents,…) and friends in new cities we might move to for the next (temporary) job.

You’d love to have a constant good friend — some permanent instance of love and continuity? I totally agree – this sounds like a good wish and should be tried to find or kept.
Most people keep one or a couple of early childhood/school friends. Great. If, due to moving from place A to B to C to D you finally lost them all, ok, don’t worry.

Random friends, even ‘friends’ for just one joyful, good evening are just as important.
Now an advise from a partly handicapped 40+ … As long as your body is capable of moving: move! You can still dance? Super! Go out, dance! When you come to the point that your body tells you: half a song is already enough dance to exhaust you, things get a lot more troublesome on top of being single/alone and in a not so nice job (if at all you manage to maintain a job while being chronically ill.)

One more fact that I’d like to tell from my past: I had the best time and found the best team of friends in a group, where we were fighting for a common cause. In my case it was an environmentalist group. It could be any action group, a sports/outdoor group, volunteering … many possibilites. The common ground, the common goal is what I found very helpful to find my kind of folks.

As long as you are healthy, you have the best chances to find joy again. When you can’t do this and that, because your body strikes and if your radius shrinks, likeliness to find and stay in contact with interesting people decreases.
Many end up in self-help groups. And then it’s all about the disease. Yawn. Now I totally understand a former friend suffering from multiple sclerosis who would only want to date people without any form of handicap. She quasi had an allergy to people in wheelchairs. It did her good 🙂 I admire her for having the strength to still go out and have plenty of wine and partying despite her chronic illness. Maybe she’ll eventually die of liver failure and not of multiple sclerosis… Let me tell you that this deeply outgoing kind of personality is extremely rare among chronically ill persons.

How many friends in wheelchairs and with multiple sclerosis e.g. do you have? I guess not so many. Most severely chronically ill end up pretty much by themselves plus a hard core of (school) friends and family who’ll keep up with whatever may come.

So, let me remind you to use your body, go out, dance, drink (without ruining your health), try to have fun even with strangers and enjoy to be able to partake.
The older you get, the more difficult it may become.

Stay healthy and enjoy.

]]> By: Courtney https://reztt.com/happily-eva-answers-lonely-searching-in-my-twenties/#comment-21398 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 22:25:43 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=5215#comment-21398 Its so refreshing to hear such honest realities from someone, to know that we ALL feel this way at some point. Love your practical, not to mention very useful, advice as well 🙂

]]> By: Sue https://reztt.com/happily-eva-answers-lonely-searching-in-my-twenties/#comment-21394 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 18:53:49 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=5215#comment-21394 Well Sweet Eva, as per usual you are so gifted to give grand advice. As a forty something….closer to that other Milestone age (fifty)…since we share a few friends who are such a blessing to both of us…..during my darker days, they continued to help me see I was a great woman, friend, daughter and aunt…..and shared love and laughter and even their family. I have to say that allowing yourself to feel and experience the highs and lows, realizing the lows make the highs even more precious.

You know I could not wish you, Kyle, Lowie and Baby Boy Martino more love, laughter and happiness. Enjoy your new home, I know you will fill it with many great memories.

Love to all!
Auntie Sue

]]> By: jen https://reztt.com/happily-eva-answers-lonely-searching-in-my-twenties/#comment-21393 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 18:43:10 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=5215#comment-21393 very good advice!! not just for 20 somethings. I am 48 and still have those kind of days..

]]> By: jennifer https://reztt.com/happily-eva-answers-lonely-searching-in-my-twenties/#comment-21392 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 18:29:47 +0000 https://happilyevaafte.wpenginepowered.com/?p=5215#comment-21392 great post. great advice for even this woman in her late 30’s that is wanting and needing a re-charge 🙂 Thank you for sharing and your honest advice.

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