Comments on: A Co-Parenting Update: Part One

By: Jacqui

Fri, 12 Feb 2021 20:22:21 +0000

Yes we do the same things and we are friends too now. We’ve been doing it since I was pregnant, so 8 years.. and we had a very rocky road but im so glad and proud of the progress we made. And it came because we both always put our kid first and each other. We respected each other and understood that anyone who came into our lives would need to be on board with that too. There would not be any gf or bf that came along who wasn’t secure in themselves to allow our friendship. I always say that even though we are no longer a couple we are still a family. And I have had to cut people out of my life who weren’t on board with this, including really good friends. At the end of the day, they are my family and we make decisions based on what’s best for our family. And it’s ok if you don’t understand it or you don’t think you could do that… but you do need to be supportive of it or you have no place with us. We do everything for the sake of a happy healthy child and that is what really matters.

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By: Taryn

Fri, 12 Feb 2021 20:03:30 +0000

I have a very unique coparenting situation, in that I still live with my ex – and my partner does too! In fact, my ex’s partner has slowly been moving in as well. It’s absolutely a challenge, but our strong friendship and coparenting dynamic and the positive affect it has had on our daughter has made life so much better than it was. So many people think it’s weird, and it is! But it works for us and we feel it has kept the negative impact of such a huge life change to a minimum for our daughter. Of course, it won’t be like this forever and it’s largely due to money that this is the living situation at all, but there are no regrets for any of us.

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By: Dua

Thu, 29 Oct 2020 11:41:03 +0000

In reply to Kulsoom Jafri.

Kulsoom,
You sound like a strong person both physically and mentally. This sounds like a lot of endurance and go through but I am glad it all workes out for you and children at the end of the day. God bless.

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By: Maria

Mon, 16 Mar 2020 22:34:28 +0000

Maybe avoid using the word “visiting” when talking about time your children spend with their father (as in “as they get used to a new schedule of visiting with their Dad”). Children should feel as if his home is also theirs. That feeling of belonging is very important.

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By: Erika

Wed, 22 Jan 2020 15:41:07 +0000

I absolutely love this post. My parents divorced when I was two. It was a very bad situation and the first few years were not pleasant (so I’ve been told). Around the age of five, something major happened in our family, and it forced my parents to get past their issues and learn how to co-parent at their best. It’s all I ever remember. My dad would come over and have dinner with us once or twice a week, even after my mom remarried, up until the time I graduated high school. He was always at birthday’s, graduations, anything… even for my sister’s big events, who wasn’t even his daughter. All my friends always thought it was so weird because they grew up in toxic divorces, whose parents wouldn’t even speak to each other. It was all I ever knew though and to this day I am so so grateful for it and it’s the biggest thing I thank my parents for.

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By: Eva Martino

Tue, 21 Jan 2020 15:04:08 +0000

In reply to Dave Lowrie.

Thank you for sharing!

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By: Tiffany

Tue, 21 Jan 2020 01:38:22 +0000

In reply to Cristina.

Everyone’s relationship and experiences are different. But this breaks my heart. I know very well growing up seeing separation in the home.

Sometimes we have to be careful with transparency. Divorce and marriage are two tough subjects. They both are sensitive to speak about.
At times, we need to keep somethings private when it comes to this line of work. This is just my opinion, (I would understand if no one agrees), because readers interpret information vastly different. And we live in a world, where everyone has to comment whether negative or positive.
Thus, this statement:
“Of course if my relationship with Kyle were perfect, we would still be married!”

The world thinks marriage is some “perfect” journey with no room for error. It is a blessing to be married, but it does take hard work, commitment, and sacrifice. To become one, isn’t a easy journey. Ups and downs happen, because to imperfect people are building a team. It is incredibly wrong kind of view the world has that marriage is perfect. Although, it was just a joking statement. I am glad you both are communicating and strengthening your relationship for the children. I wish you well and health for the entire family.
P.S. I would have loved to see you and kyle remain married, but again I cannot understand nor see into your relationship. God bless you all.

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By: Dave Lowrie

Mon, 20 Jan 2020 22:10:44 +0000

Dear Eva – thanks for sharing. My ex and I separated and then found out she was pregnant with our child. We were lucky to live in adjacent Hudson Valley towns just 5 minutes apart so co-parenting worked out with me being a stay-at-home dad (thank you high-speed internet.) One thing that really helped our daughter was having pets at each house – her mom bought a rabbit and a gerbil and I had a dog and a cat. They immediately put our girl at ease whenever she crossed town. Hope this is helpful and many blessings

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By: Melanie

Sun, 19 Jan 2020 00:46:15 +0000

Very well written, Eva! I commend you on your honesty and strength during this period of big change in your children’s and your life. So inspiring!

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By: vero

Sun, 19 Jan 2020 00:26:31 +0000

I am going through the same situation after 20 years of marriage. It is not easy but i can not lie I am enjoying MY moments of loneliness with myself. The nights I am alone I dont overflow with activities. I just spend time with myself so I can be stronger and happier when I am with my kids! Thanks for sharing your feelings. It is good to know there are other women going through the same moment! Greetings from Argentina!

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