Comments on: A Co-Parenting Update: Part Four

By: Jan Calipo

Fri, 04 Jun 2021 17:18:50 +0000

My kids were 7 months and 4 years. We always lived in the same city so the sports is a tuff one for you. I do can say if you find the kids are missing you and want to come home, I found not calling them was better. Kids are fine as long as they are in the moment (having fun, distracted) and won’t miss the other parent. When they’re reminded you’re not there they miss you and want to leave

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By: Katie

Fri, 04 Jun 2021 16:59:22 +0000

As a child of divorced parents, I love reading about how it could have been LOL. Y’all are crushing it.

My parents lived 2 hours away from one another and there was no effort put in from my dad in accommodating me on the weekends I had to go to his house. Of course, this led to resentment as I got older and wanted to stay at my moms to do my normal life like all my friends. So even though I’m sure it’s a nightmare to schlep back and forth, I’m sure it means the world to the kids!

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By: TK

Fri, 04 Jun 2021 03:20:01 +0000

Hi Eva – I see that you post a lot of pictures with your kids and Ian. Do you think when Kyle is in a relationship and the kids develop a bond with that person, will it be hard for you as a mom to see another woman loving on your kids? I would think it would be difficult especially for moms. Just curious on your thoughts. PS I think it’s great you found someone who seems to love you all & gets along with Kyle.

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By: Pam

Thu, 03 Jun 2021 20:53:44 +0000

It’s been so great to hear your experience with co-parenting. Thank you so much for sharing it! We live in NJ and my stepson lives primarily with his mom in MA. Our schedule used to be every third weekend, plus half of all school breaks. Realistically (and esp as he got older; he’s now 18), he spent much less time here than that. On lots of weekends, my husband would go up there and stay at a hotel locally with him. My husband and his ex-wife continue to have a contentious relationship (even 16 years after divorcing with both moving on and getting remarried). But my husband has done a great job maintaining contact with video calls over the years. We (my husband, myself and our two “ours” kids) all have great relationships with my step-son and he feels loved by everyone in his family.

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By: francisca

Thu, 03 Jun 2021 20:20:34 +0000

Amazing how they have done it as parents. A consultation as has been the issue of child support? Kylie helps you financially? How did you solve the amount?

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By: Jen

Thu, 03 Jun 2021 20:04:48 +0000

I feel like the sports life in general is kind of stressful. My boys play baseball twice a week, and while we all love it, it’s stressful. It’s hard to plan meals around it, it’s hard to keep a sibling entertained while trying to enjoy the game yourself. Sometimes they’re both playing at the same time at different fields and that’s hard too. After one particularly stressful game night, my husband said “we gotta figure out a system.” Then we quickly realized that the season was already almost over and so we didn’t really need to come up with anything because by the time we would, it would all be behind us anyway. Just by changing the perspective, made the whole thing easier to deal with. Thinking of the stressful things as temporary really helped.

So I don’t have a ton of advice for your specific issue, but hopefully it helps a little to look at it a little differently. I feel like parenting in general is like seasons, just when you get used to a routine, the kids flip the script, their needs change and you adjust.

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By: Gina

Thu, 03 Jun 2021 19:56:08 +0000

It’s so important to remember that even if your co-parenting relationship isn’t where you want it to be in time you can get there. After two years my ex and I are finally on the same page with our two boys and can I tell you what a sigh of relief it is to both just be focused on the well being of our children!

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By: Deserae

Thu, 03 Jun 2021 18:36:31 +0000

Love hearing about your efforts to keep your kids the priority. Sometimes it’s tough to parent with someone that your relationship is so different with – but kids didn’t ask for the changes. I’ve always been mindful that my children have a father who needs to be a part of our family, even if he isn’t a part of my home. It’s tough. When I remarried, I made sure my husband understood that their dad was a part of the package. Unfortunately when my ex remarried his wife wanted nothing to do with co-parenting and it’s really been a struggle for our kids. I wish all parents put their kids’ needs first and would see that being on the same page helps everyone. Kids need to see their parents get along. So long story short (haha) I am so glad you’re doing the work to include your new partner and still balance the co-parenting the same way.

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By: Eva Amurri

Thu, 03 Jun 2021 15:31:21 +0000

In reply to Irina.

Thank you Irina! I really think kids thrive when the parents are their happiest! xx

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By: Irina

Thu, 03 Jun 2021 15:26:39 +0000

Wow Eva you are such an inspiration when it comes to co-parenting and parenting in general! Your children seem so happy, well adjusted and overall thriving and I think that’s a lot thanks to you, and of course Kyle too. Thanks for sharing your family with us!

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